You have probably tried more than one approach to this. Therapy, most likely. Books, almost certainly. A seminar, perhaps, or a course. Something shifted in the room. You felt it in your body. Then you went home to your actual life and the old current reasserted itself.

The explanation you were left with, consistently, across all of it, was some version of the same thing: you need more discipline, more commitment, more follow-through. You are not a person who lacks discipline. Which made this explanation particularly unhelpful.

Insight is not the mechanism of change. It is the thing that makes you an extremely articulate observer of your own loops. That is a real skill. It is not the same skill as the capacity to interrupt the loop while it is running.

Every approach you tried was reasonable. Every one of them worked at the wrong level.

Watch the video, then run the cost-benefit audit on one protective behavior from this week.