The system has been running one calculation. This worksheet runs the other one.
Step 1
Lay it out
Write down everything that has been in the way. Every reason this attempt stopped. Every condition you keep waiting on. Then mark what is a real constraint and what is an exit.
A real constraint is structural and unmovable: you cannot move forward until it clears. Everything else is an exit: a future that is not guaranteed to arrive.
Checked: real constraintUnchecked: exit
Not hoped for, not likely. Guaranteed. If the condition has no guaranteed arrival date, it is an exit.
Step 2
Name what is being protected
When the exits are closed and movement is still stalled, something underneath is being guarded.
Step 3
Name what it costs to stay
The system has been focused on what moving risks. It has not been asked to account for what staying costs. Write the specific version, not the abstract one.
Concrete and specific. What you have canceled, avoided, delayed, or quietly given up on.
Step 4
Put both survivals in the same room
Read what you wrote in Steps 2 and 3 together. Both sides are protection. Name the felt sensation underneath each one.
What moving risks
What staying costs
Step 5
Find the smallest move
Reduce the action until it becomes something you could do in the next twenty-four hours without the system locking up.
Not the whole thing. A concrete action in the next 24 hours.
If there is a sense of settling, the move is the right size. If the body braces, reduce it further.
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